De-Commissioned

We’re ex-GCM (Great Commission Ministries) church members who want to discuss problems we’ve experienced in the association’s practices and theology.

Archive for October, 2006

The Marriage Lottery

Posted by graduatedjosh on October 31, 2006

“I’m thinking about getting married,” my good GCM leader friend remarked to me one afternoon.
“Really! That’s great who’s the lucky girl?” I asked.
“Ohh, I’ve got a few candidates in mind, he responded with a grin.
My jaw hit the floor. Did we own a harem of good Christian girls from whom the men could choose from?

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Walking Wombs

Posted by graduatedjosh on October 29, 2006

Women: you can’t live with ’em, can’t live without ’em. The “woman” issue is a big one is GCM. There’s always controversy about this. Most claim that submission, homeschooling, and droves of children are a blessing, and I think they all can be. However, it feels forced sometimes. Do all those women REALLY want 8 kids? Or are they just not sure what else they’re good for in the church?

Was there a verse more preached than “wives submit to your husbands?” What about the Proverbs 31 woman who was used like a cudgel to beat us into shape?

But the thing that bothers me the most is the issue of careers for women. We all know that practicality is a key issue in GCM. Both men and women choose careers that take little time or passion so they can funnel that all into the church. But what that means for women is especially heartbreaking.

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New items of interest…

Posted by agathalorange on October 26, 2006

Does anyone have any ideas for future blog posts? We’ve been tossing around a few ideas… there are a lot to choose from, but maybe some of you all out there have some topics you would like to discuss…

Any ideas?

If you read my post earlier (since deleted), we found a link so that’s great. Thanks, anonymous, for posting a reply… and I deleted it thanks to your advice.

Agatha L’Orange

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Forgiveness

Posted by graduatedjosh on October 22, 2006

In the healing forum and in the rest of this blog, we’ve talked a lot about forgiveness. We hope that this blog is helping us move towards healing and forgiveness.

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Healing Forum

Posted by genevievejones on October 12, 2006

It might also be worth starting a thread on here oh how people are finding healing, and the struggles we are facing as we try to move on, engage in other churches, relationships, and our walks with God.

Great idea, Sista in Christ!

Here’s a place to tell us how you’ve been healing and recovering from GCM–and suggestions for the rest of us.

Genevieve Jones

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Hey

Posted by geneprince on October 11, 2006

Hey everyone!

I removed the “and we want to rant” from our description. From the beginning it was a joke, but I think it’s sending the wrong message despite the sarcasm. Though a rant will likely sneak through from time to time, that’s not the reason for this blog.

Gene Prince

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McCotter Poison?

Posted by graduatedjosh on October 7, 2006

We’ve seen some contrasting opinions about what GCM churches are like. We’ve shared some of our stories, but others have said they haven’t experienced the same thing. So, what makes the churches different?

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I Just Want to Be Normal!

Posted by graduatedjosh on October 5, 2006

Okay, so this might sound like the diary entry of a 13-year-old, but it’s true. I was listening to the “Great Commission Story” and “Raising an Army” on this website: http://www.graceforstate.org/faithwalkers.shtml. I was surprised by how often the speakers talked about having a “radical” life that “counted.” If you want your life to count for God, you need to live it “radically.”

Anyway, I started to wonder, what if I just want a good life (different from the good life). I got the impression, normal wasn’t good enough, that people who didn’t want to “go all out for God” were somehow less-than. Calling all overachievers!

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The Shadow of the Past

Posted by graduatedjosh on October 3, 2006

Great Commission’s history fascinates me. Partly it’s because GC kept it hidden. Discovering Jim McCotter and the cult accusations was like finding a secret door in the house where you grew up. You never expected it to be there, but at the same time you always kind of thought the floor plan seemed wrong. Now that odd feeling about the size of the dining room suddenly makes sense. So, I guess this is why GC’s history really interests me. To what extent can one draw parallels between the GC of today and the GC of the 70’s and 80’s? I know in many ways they are very different organizations, and yet… and yet. Many of the same men and their handpicked successors continue to run things nationally and locally. Indeed, some have seen signs of a resurgence of “old” GC ways.

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Keeping the Focus Where It Should Be — On the Negative

Posted by graduatedjosh on October 2, 2006

Relax, the title of this post is a joke.

But some questions have arisen about the motivations behind this blog. It’s true that De-Commissioned is focused on problems within Great Commission. Does a focus on problems mean we are unloving and ungracious, even bitter or vengeful?

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